Av: Natalija

Natalija — Wed, 09 Sep 2015 08:00:38 +0000

October 8, 2012 at 3:25 pm Oh my gosh, I have so many thoughts on this topic, too! I read both the Huff Post arcilte and the Atlantic arciltes referenced, in addition to reading Penelope Trunk’s arcilte and several of the items you sourced (and some more beyond that). For me, the single biggest changes that would help women work and achieve more in business is:1) make the school day match the work day2) provide a tax benefit that is actually commensurate with the real-world cost of full-time daycare, rather than the paltry $5000 max per family (insane, no quality, full-time daycare in this country can be had for $5000 per year for one child, let alone multiple children)3) Women supporting each other, regardless of the choices we make for our families how can we expect to be taken seriously in the business world if we are busy tearing each other down about PTA volunteering and SAHM vs. work?!From the time I was young, I have always been a go-getter career person. I have also always wanted to be a mother. When I was in college, I assumed that I would go do the big career thing, tackle everything make millions, rule over the corporate world and then think about having kids when I approached 40. As it turned out, my husband and I ended up much like you being blessed with a beautiful daughter immediately and by no specific plan of our own at the young age of 26. Baby #2 followed a couple years later, because once we had one, it’s a much easier decision to add another, haha. Through both, I took maternity leave (8 weeks and 12 weeks) continued working full-time, eager and careerist as ever .but I had a (male) boss that told me that post-baby #2, I was not the star careerist I had been, pre-baby and that he wished there were a good way for women to hit pause on their careers while they had babies and little kids and then resume play again later. While this might sound sensitive at first read, I assure you it was quite demeaning and can you even imagine a man saying that to another man in the same situation?! Absurd! Needless to say this did not sit well so I promptly found myself a new job with a female boss, who was much more of a supporter of those of us who wanted to [try to] do it all. I now have baby #3, still work full-time, and have added owning my own business on the side to that. Though I did consider staying home after #2 and again #3, I’ve always gone back because I do love my work and what it allows me and what it teaches my children. They see me work hard about something that I care about. As well, to live financially the way we choose, my working provides that ability. I do feel sometimes that I ought to be home full-time, especially because the baby years go by so quickly. But the deep truth is that I think I am a better mother working, than I would be SAHM. I need the mental break, creativity, and stimulation that work/business provide. I need work to appreciate my kids, and I need my kids to appreciate my work! But the juggle can definitely be tough, and it takes a lot of finessing to make it happen great daycare/home help, support from family/friends, involved partner, lots of patience. We actually moved from a place we loved, in order to be closer to family that could help out so that both my husband and I can do it all. And there are still days when I feel like I am failing on every front .usually when that happens, I realize I need to sit back and look at what I am involved in, because it’s probably too much. Something has to give.Though I have to say that with my personal business, I do find myself kind of laying-up about what my goals are your post made me own up to that and re-think what I want it to be, regardless of my role as a mother. Because how many men own a business and caveat their growth/success with, well if it fits into school hours. I so look forward to the discussion this week.

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